Relationship counselling – Helping you create great relationships

Healthy relationships are wonderful, they nurture us and we feel secure and loved. But they can become strained and difficult.
What are the signs and symptoms of a troubled relationship?

Unfortunately, no relationships are ever perfect. At some point your relationship whether with a close friend, a live-in partner, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a family member or your spouse, conflicts and challenges are guaranteed to come.

Some disagreements are normal and generally fine. But there are things that warn of more serious issues. Here are some signs and symptoms that your relationship may be in trouble:

  • Power struggles
  • Feelings of contempt
  • Loss of trust
  • Communication issues
  • Loss of emotional and sexual intimacy
  • Abusive behaviour
  • Failure to compromise
  • Feelings of “not good enough”
  • Lack of physical closeness

How an unhealthy relationship impacts your life?

Just like unhealthy foods, an unhealthy, dysfunctional relationship has serious effects on your well-being. It can affect not just your mind but also your body and soul.

Research shows that people in a negative relationship are 34% more likely to suffer from heart disease. High blood pressure increases as your relationship gets worse. Negative relationships can also lead to stress, which affects all areas of your life.

But the worst a destructive relationship can do is affect your emotional and mental health. When you constantly feel that you’re not good enough and you’re unlovable, losing your sense of self-worth is inevitable. You’ll likely feel a high level of stress, which can affect your sleep, mood and general wellbeing.

As the relationship problems get worse, the risk of anxiety also increases. And when you’re constantly on the edge, succumbing to depression is a high possibility. Before you know it, you’ll find yourself in a situation where you’ve pushed other people out of your life including well-meaning family members and friends. Your work or career may be affected. Worst case scenario, you may even stopped being a functional member of the community.

When to seek for professional help?

If you are in a troubled and failing relationship, there is good news. If you are willing, there are ways to turn things around. Even if others are not interested in trying to change there is a lot you can do to improve the way you react to people around you.

Some areas that you can work on with a counsellor:

  • Feel that you are being heard
  • Improve communication
  • Re-evaluate the reasons why the relationship is worth saving
  • Identify negative patterns and issues
  • Learn how to forgive

If your efforts to improve the relationship are not working and your relationship problems can no longer be helped by your own efforts, it’s time to seek for professional help. Talking to a counselor can help.

How can relationship counselling help?

In relationship counselling you have a safe and private environment to talk about problems and have them be heard without judgement or advice giving. Poor communication often contributes to relationship pain and the counsellor helps you to learn better ways to communicate.

Some of the benefits of working with a counsellor include:

  • Safe and supportive environment
  • Better communication
  • Re-establish a sense of intimacy
  • Change old patterns of relating
  • Facilitate understanding and positive change
  • Renegotiate relationship commitments

So if you are tired of the way things are and are tired of going around in circles then please call me on 0405093813 or send a text message.